I have struggled with my weight for over 20 years. I tried it all and could never maintain lasting results. In 2023, two of my friends had bariatric surgery with great outcomes. I was on the fence—conflicted and apprehensive about surgery—especially about dealing with the stigma.

As a nurse, I’ve seen and heard it all. People are not always kind. I started my research and found Dr. Mai on social media while reading patient testimonials. I made an appointment.

Dr. Mai was so patient. She answered all my questions, shared research and data, discussed her success rates, and was transparent about patients who had experienced challenges. We talked everything through for months before my surgery. I also met with Damian several times—protein, protein, protein! The entire staff was supportive and encouraging every step of the way.

This journey has been a long one—17 months since my first consult—and I don’t think I would have made it through with any other surgeon. Dr. Mai is an incredibly skilled surgeon and a genuinely good person. (As a nurse, I know these things!) She knows how to give tough love and feedback without crushing your spirit. Dr. Mai truly walks beside you and supports you throughout your journey.

During the pre-op process, I shared my plans with only a select few. Most were somewhat supportive, but I also heard comments like:

“You don’t need it.”
“It’s extreme.”
“Everyone gains the weight back.”
“It’s too risky.”
“You’re not that big.”
“Try another diet first—restriction never lasts.”

I kept my chin up, knowing my wife and kids had my back.

Now, here I am—14 months later—feeling healthy, strong, and truly alive again. I feel like I’ve gotten my life back. I’m off blood pressure meds. I’m building muscle. I train daily with an online coach—bench press, deadlifts, squats, on repeat!

I’m intentional and mindful 95% of the time. I’m not perfect—I’m still Italian, and I still celebrate everything with cheesecake. I’m not a saint. But I make choices every day that help me move closer to the best version of myself.

There is no finish line.

JE